Thursday, May 5, 2016

FISH LOVE

#obstreperuos

When you search for love, do you search for emotional high, physical pleasure and inner satisfaction? Do you seek the one who will understand all your needs, who you are, and what you can be? He or she must be worthy at the same time of your companionship? And if not, you'll search for another ONE? Is it love? Or is it trade? Are you trying to buy (emotionally, physically or literally) someone to keep up at your demands? The product which will eventually expire like every other. But you are smart, you will think of a plan in advance so that you never ever feel the burden of what you've chosen to be your LOVE. So I'm going to ask you again, what IS love?

Love truly can be emotional high, pleasure, passion and inner satisfaction. I truly believe love must be the essence of everything we do. Romantic love is more and more becoming an issue in these modern times and we all agree that the fairy tales aren't real life. But still, so many lonely and unhappy people, divorces, disappointed lives. So let's redefine romantic love without losing the word ''love'', cause romance alone is nothing more than a vain pursuit for your own personal fairy tale.

#zsalto

Romantic love is when you decide your partner is irreplaceable. It's the courage to keep walking together no matter the highs and the lows. Romantic love is unshakable trust in you and your partners common destiny. It is respecting each other as individuals, encouraging each others individuality, listening, feeling each other hearts, giving care and being taking care of in the same time. Sometimes it hurts, because you carry not just your own, but also your partners burden. And for the same reason, sometimes it is like a fairy tale. It is like saying: ''I am here for you and your life because I know you are here for me and my life.''  And while being on the same path, you have decided to fight together, as friends, not as the enemies. They will throw stones at you from now and then, you will be shaken with life's serial, but you always know: you're in this together. ''Today I might not like you, and I might not like myself, but your hand is still in my hand. It's saying, ''I respect you for all of what you are, cause you are part of me, and I am part of you. Unconditionally, shamelessly.'' And  is one rare two-way street-romantic love. 
In fact, every love should be like that. In friendship, in family, as the human empathy. But somehow, somewhere, someone has changed all the rules making us sound infantile for believing in love. However, no words can mask the true meaning of things instinctively felt in our hearts. I guess today, living for love in general is a true act of rebellion.


#nastygal


Today's love: Fish love

This is how Rabbi Dr. Abraham Twerski speaks of love. He goes to the core of the matter. You can listen and watch the entire speech here.


''Love is a word that in our culture has almost lost its meaning now. Very interesting story about the Rabbi who came across a young man who was clearly enjoying the dish of fish that he was eating, and he said to the young  man, ''Why are you eating the fish? - Because I love fish.'' He said, ''Oh you love fish, that's why you took it out of the water and killed it.'' He said, ''Don't tell me you love the fish, you love yourself. And because the fish tastes good to you, therefore you took it out of the water, and killed it, and boiled it. '' 
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So much of what is love is fish love. And so, young couple falls in love, young man and young woman fall in love, what does that mean? That means that he saw in this woman someone who he felt could provide him with all his physical emotional needs, and she thought in this man somebody she feels that she can write ''that was love'', but each one was looking out for their own needs. It's not love for the other, the other person becomes a vehicle for my gratification. Too much of what is called love is fish love. Love is not what I'm gonna get but what I'm gonna give . We had an ethicist rabbi Deshler who said that people make serious mistake in thinking that you give to those whom you love. And the real answer is you love those to whom you give.  And his point is , if I give something to you, I've invested myself in you. And since self-love is given, everybody loves themselves, now that part of me has become in you, there's part of me in you that I love. So true love is a love of giving, not a love of receiving.

#neverstayin


''Keep love in your heart. A life without it is like a sunless garden when the flowers are dead.''
- Oscar Wilde

Love, ITI

Friday, April 29, 2016

BLUE JEANS



Did you know that jeans were invented by Jacob W. Davis in partnership with Levi Strauss in 1871.? Blue coloured denim was originally designed for cowboys and miners and haven't became popular among teenagers until 1950's. 

Girls had to wait for them until the 1960's, when they became part of the Hippie subculture. Later in the 70's and 80's they were everywhere, mostly as the part of the punk rock and heavy metal culture. Until these days, they remain popular fashion item coming in various forms: skinny, tapered, slim, straight, boot cut, low waist, high waist, distressed jeans, cigarette pants, boyfriend fit...

It's fascinating how this fashion item, iconic and eternal, covered so many different aspects of the culture, but one thing's for sure, it has defined the fashion of the youth.
Girls love to read articles which tell them which jeans cut  fits their body figure, which one is the hottest trend, which one wore Rihanna and which one should wait hidden in the closet for some other future days.

We will go through the most popular jeans cuts in the pop culture before we look up for the most popular recent jeans trends.


1. First born jeans for the boys only

Levi's Jeans for the miners


2. 1950's

Usually worn by ''greasers'' , combined with the white or black T-shirt. James Dean popularized them in the movie Rebel without a cause. Women in the 50's were the first to enjoy the freedom of wearing pants. The women pants were a taboo on TV until Mary Tyler Moore was seen wearing them on the Dick Van Dyke Show. Only after that, women were more at ease wearing pants outside of the home. Here's for more information about the evolution of the women's pants through the 50's.


Marylin Monroe and James Dean wearing Levi's.


3. 1960's

In the 1960's, André Courrèges introduced jeans for women, leading to the era of designer jeans. 60's and the 70's were marked with the hippie fashion which defined ''Boho'' style, still as much as popular today as before. The specific model of the jeans known as Bell bottoms has it's comebacks and come & go's, just as High waist jeans, recently restored in the world of fashion.



4. 1970's

While hippie style blossomed the fashion of jeans among women, and the disco era made Flared jeans look glamorous and sexy both among men and women, the punk era has renewed the look of jeans. Jeans were combined with chains and leather, the ''ripped look'' was everything. Thanks for the Skinny jeans! 


Farrah Fawcett



 style popularized in London by Vivienne Westwood and Malcolm McLaren


4. 1980's

Goodbye flared jeans. For now. High waist, tight fit, loose cut, straight cut, it's all there! Acid wash with high waist became particularly popular.









5. 1990's

Welcome, grunge. The jeans are seriously in the game. And they are still high waist, straight cut, loose, sometimes ripped, and cooler than ever. So are the sneakers.




6. 2000's

Low-waist mania! Denim dresses, denim skirts, denim everywhere. In the search for a more feminine and sexy look, the jeans became really tight again, Bell bottoms were back and everyone who was cool was in that game.




7. Today.


Fashion girls love to combine the rough cut of the jeans with fancy style. It proves they can go with everything: weather it is the casual look or the evening look. The thing is to find your own special pair of blue jeans and make them become part of your own personal style. Today you can go with any cut or any model as long as you know how to wear them. Jeans were created to give you confidence, so make sure you feel  both comfy and sexy when you pick a pair, otherwise they're really nothing more than another lousy pair of trousers. 


Hello again, High waist jeans with crop top 




Skinny jeans are always good idea



Distressed jeans-boyfriend cut are more feminine than ever



Flared jeans at their best
Elle Mcpherson


So zip up safely, and remember: tights can never be jeans.



Love, ITI

Monday, April 25, 2016

ARE YOU FOR REAL

via #weheartit

Authenticity. The quality of being authentic. It is not a magic superpower or  some kind of a talent, but still, people question each others authenticity all the time. 


We have to dare to be ourselves, however frightening or strange that self may prove to be.
 
May Sarton




Authenticity comes naturally to the authentic ones. We are all born unique and, blah blah. The paradox is that even if we want to believe we are unique, we also want to blend in certain kind of groups and in our social context, we want to find people who share the same traits with us. We might be even intolerant of different kind of views and beliefs. But there is no other you, or other me. Authenticity is being natural in everything you do. The way you talk, dress, do your job, pick your hobbies, etc. But we cannot be immune to the impact other people have on us. Aware of it or not, we are selective in our tastes, the tastes and behaviour we have built through our life, weather it is mostly through our family or other people, through the media or something else. But in the sum of it all, our selection makes us authentic.





Nothing is original. Steal from anywhere that resonates with inspiration or fuels your imagination. Devour old films, new films, music, books, paintings, photographs, poems, dreams, random conversations, architecture, bridges, street signs, trees, clouds, bodies of water, light and shadows. Select only things to steal from that speak directly to your soul. If you do this, your work (and theft) will be authentic. Authenticity is invaluable; originality is non-existent. And don’t bother concealing your thievery - celebrate it if you feel like it. In any case, always remember what Jean-Luc Godard said: “It’s not where you take things from - it’s where you take them to.
 Jim Jarmusch


Authenticity is a big subject when it comes to art. Every art is inspirational and inspired by something. But there is difference between copying specific personal style and being inspired by certain people or ideas. Authenticity is threatened where there's lack of imagination, creativity, the lack of self. Authenticity cannot always stay protected through formality and so it is the question of our own conscience when it comes to respecting someone's spiritual legacy. When you steal someone's persona or work, not only you devalue everything you are, you are also a thief no worse than the one who steals the money from the blind person when no one's looking. You are ripping off someone's spirit in order for you to look better. You take the result of something as your own, the result of a personal work or experience you know nothing about.


Following all the rules leaves a completed check list. Following your heart achieves a completed you.
 Ray A. Davis






Another thing. Music industry is rapidly changing in every possible way. So many styles, so many artists, and still it feels sometimes it is impossible for another Freddie Mercury or Jim Morrison to pop out and shake the world. There probably are many charismatic and gifted souls we might not know about. And so many copy-paste musicians we are forced to know about. The industry is more mechanical than ever and it is almost impossible to differ if something came from the heart of the artist or from the managers mouth. This massive production everywhere makes us question authenticity of everything we see or hear when it comes to entertainment. Cause the massive entertainment has outgrown the ideas, individual tastes and art itself. The world of artists is becoming one perfectly synced machine, no time for imperfections, opinions, out scenario moves. And the price of authenticity comes with the bill and instructions like every other product.




I honestly believe that people of my generation despise authenticity, mostly because they're all so envious of it.
 Chuck Klosterman, Killing Yourself to Live: 85% of a True Story

Yes, in all my research, the greatest leaders looked inward and were able to tell a good story with authenticity and passion.
 
Depak Chopras


Being part of all this, it isn't strange we question ourselves and each other on a daily basics. But the thing is, we should relax. Stop taking ourselves so seriously. Let's stop analysing. Stop searching for the box to fit in. Let's just be. Cause that is the most natural thing, it is how we were born and supposed to be from the the day one. Choose your idols, sure, pick your favourite colours, change when you feel the change, feel your own aspirations and don't buy everyone's story. Concentrate on the stuff you like, give people compliments. Respect people have their own tastes. Focus on the stories you like. Never be ashamed of what you like. Everyone can click on ''like'' what everyone likes. And be honest. Authenticity is being honest with yourself and everyone or everything you have a chance to interact with. Where there's no honesty, there is the lack of soul and true interaction. 
The authenticity is the volume of your soul, there's no point in singing and listening when it's on mute.




 Authenticity is a collection of choices that we have to make every day. It's about the choice to show up and be real. The choice to be honest. The choice to let our true selves be seen.
 Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think 

Beauty of style and harmony and grace and good rhythm depend on simplicity – I mean the true simplicity of a rightly and nobly ordered mind and character, not that other simplicity which is only a euphemism for folly.
 Plato

Highly sensitive people are too often perceived as weaklings or damaged goods. To feel intensely is not a symptom of weakness, it is the trademark of the truly alive and compassionate. It is not the empath who is broken, it is society that has become dysfunctional and emotionally disabled. There is no shame in expressing your authentic feelings. Those who are at times described as being a 'hot mess' or having 'too many issues' are the very fabric of what keeps the dream alive for a more caring, humane world. Never be ashamed to let your tears shine a light in this world.
 Anthon St. Maarten




 Love, Invitation To Inspiration





Tuesday, April 12, 2016

NUMBERS AND NAMES

Don't know what's real any more
who's an ashole or who's the whore
every time I think I've finally got it all
someone comes and makes another hole.

Today I saw young lady
next to an old millionaire
everyone was hating
''oh look what a pair''
Last year she was breaking
in hundreds of pieces
praying, crying, dying
young bum crashed her with kisses.

A smart man cried for love
in all different places
A girl came to him and longed
for his arms, so tenacious
I could go with this, he opened his arms
one happy family with ten thousand lies.

My dear true love, don't you ever sell yourself
stay with me please, until the very last end
forget all their numbers, forget all their names
stay priceless and free from all those small town games.



via #fannylikes



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Saturday, April 9, 2016

THE ART OF STYLE


I don't do fashion. I am fashion.
- Coco Chanel


Fashion has always been a form of mood and personality mirroring & style is one of the best things that can happen in that process. Style is how you make art from the fashion. It's the heart of the fashion. The fashion industry is constantly creating, pushing and recycling new trends. You can try following them, or you can just take what you love while becoming your own fashion icon. 


Fashion is what you’re offered four times a year by designers. And style is what you choose.
- Lauren Hutton

Fashion should be a form of escapism, and not a form of imprisonment.
- Alexander McQueen

Style is knowing who you are, what you want to say, and not giving a damn.
- Orson Welles


The stylists are the magicians in that certain craft. The bad-ass, the sexy, the fancy, the glamorous, and ''the I don't care'' outfits we watch on television and in the streets are talented or less talented versions of someone's ideas. 


Fashion is not something that exists in dresses only. Fashion is in the sky, in the street, fashion has to do with ideas, the way we live, what is happening. 
- Coco Chanel


You may be able to buy fancy expensive clothes. But you can't buy the style. Or can you? Who are the names behind the coolest fashion trends? Who are the ladies we would like to steal some clothes from? Here are some of our favourite fashion stylists, and here’s why:


1. Lysa Cooper



A celebrity stylist who has worked with Rihanna, Beyonce, Kanye West and more. An artist. One of the masterminds behind the Rihanna’s image transformation. She openly commented the Olsen twins fashion line:  

The only [celebrity line] that’s any good, and I hate to say it, are our girls, the twins. But the reason that works, is because they hired designers. They [the twins] “yay” or “nay” [the concepts]. And they are the best line at ripping off other lines that I’ve ever seen.

Lysa Cooper has guts to speak her own mind. And like most stylists, she is an independent contractor. Her comments on how she parted ways with Rihanna :

That way you don’t become somebody’s slave. That way there are boundaries. And those boundaries got blurred with Rihanna.

On the other hand, she doesn't expose herself much in public and keeps her work in private. One of the rare interviews with her can be seen in Vogue.


2. Rachel Zoe


American fashion designer and a businesswoman. Best known for working with the celebrities, fashion houses, magazine editors; she began her carreer as a fashion editor and became one of the most influential people in the fashion industry, where she has been involved for nearly two decades. As a stylist, she worked with Mischa Barton, Nicole Richie, Keira Knightley, and her current clients list includes Cameron Diaz, Kate Hudson, Demi Moore, Liv Tyler, Eva Mendes, Anne Hathaway, Jennifer Lawrence, etc.
With the help of reality star Nicole Richie, she became the pioneer of the famous boho-chic look.


3.  Tara Swennen


It is enough to say that this stylist landed this year’s hot model crossover, Emily Ratajkowski of ''Gone Girl'' and ''Blurred lines'' video fame. She is responsible for Kristen Stewart’s killer red carpet looks. Tara Swennen's clients also include Mila Kunis and Heather Graham.




4. Kate Young


One of the biggest celebrity stylists at the moment. Her clients are one of the most well dressed women in Hollywood: Natalie Portman, Sienna Miller, Dakota Johnson, Rachel Weisz, and Selena Gomez, just to name a few.

Kate Young to Design Collection for Target


5. Mary Alice Stephenson


Style and beauty expert, also a TV host and fashion journalist. She has been working with Vogue, Allure, Marie Claire and Harper’s Bazaar. She has even worked with the First Lady, Mrs. Obama. Mrs. Stephenson is the National Fashion Ambassador for the ''Make a wish'' foundation:
Granting wishes to kids that have suffered life-threatening medical conditions gives fashion a deeper meaning for me. This makes my career all the more worthwhile.
You can read the whole interview here.



Girls do not dress for boys. They dress for themselves and, of course, each other. If girls dressed for boys they’d just walk around naked at all times.
- Betsey Johnson




Fashions fade, style is eternal.
- Yves Saint Laurent




Love, ITI

Tuesday, April 5, 2016

Le Démon du Bien

Quotes and inspiration from the book by Henry De Montherlant, ''Le Démon du Bien''. The volume is a part of series of books called ''Les Jeunes Filles'' (The Young Girls, 1936–1939). 


Oh! My dear, you wanted to drink my soul! Now I'm the one who drinks your substance. Understand that a writer always has the last word. 



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Costals talked about the importance of his work, without any false modesty, as the man who knows well that it’s him who’s leading the right path.

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''The purest work of art, wouldn't it be a simple heartbeat?'' Said Mme Dandillot.




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It’s funny, all the men, when speaking in private, share the same opinion: there is not a glance of the mystery in a woman. But, if they should write about woman, or talk about her in public, that is to say if they have to express themselves officially concerning this subject, there they go versing about The Mysterious Eve.
Anyway, whether there is some mystery in women or not, there is certain mystery in men. The mystery of the man is that a woman can love him.


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''How many lost hopes, unfulfilled dreams does it carry?'' A woman will never think that a passing train also carries fulfilled dreams. It’s the melancholy that’s the small luxury of the poor souls. In the West, it’s the cult of suffering, dominated by women. In the East, where man is the master, it’s the cult of wisdom. But me, near this quiet and gloomy woman, I become sour, I play with words unworthy of me and unworthy of her. 

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You’re lying like an angel! He murmured satisfied, at the stairs. I've always been afraid you couldn't do that, and that is one true disease, not being able to lie.
-I can deceive the ones I'm indifferent to. I couldn't deceive someone I love.
-No, me neither. But I could deceive someone that I'm only half in love with.

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I've noticed long time ago the animal side that’s inside you…
 …how you focus on talking to your cats, which names I still don’t know by the way…
-They don’t have one.
-No names? Then how do you call them?
-I don’t call them. They come when they want to.

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That work of seduction, with its infinite patience, until the day when a creature that was climbing along the wall couldn't move without you any more, that, that is worth living for.

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Small victories are paid with high price.

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Her harsh female face. He was afraid of her. The fear of what she was becoming. Fear of what she might do to him, if he foolishly locks himself in the cage with her. And as he had always had inside of him, in the dormant state, something fierce, just waiting for an opportunity to be awakened, it was the fear that awakened this ferocity (the mechanism is always the same, in the wild as well as in men: fear triggers the ferocity by which we want to remove what scares us, and the ferocity triggers the fear-the fear of reprisals).


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She was far away and was believed to be safe. But from a far, he was withdrawing her fluids and depersonalizing her, through his art, like she had withdrawn his fluids and depersonalized him, through the power of annoyance which emanated from her. And he depersonalized her twice, because he dispersed her features in the several characters of his book; she ceased to be an individual, she ceased to be.


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We cannot hate nor could we despise the children or the animals, because we could never say that they are below of what they’re supposed to be: they are miraculously clear.
The redemption of the mankind through the youth and the animals was one of his favorite myths, and (what’s most unusual) it has been ever since he was an adolescent himself. 

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It’s the demon of charity, always, the one who messes up my life…

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~Now, some time after that, Jesus met Iblis. He told him: ''The Prince of Pleasures, they say you cry. Is that true?'' Iblis answered: ''The men have made this bizarre idea of, as they call it, the gift of tears. The demons also cry. And what does that prove? Me too, I also cry sometimes. ''Jesus said: ''What do you cry about?'' Iblis said: ''I cry because I, the demon, I am forced to believe in God, and so I suffer.’’

''Me as well, I am forced to believe in you'', said Jesus. But you don’t cry just over that?'' Iblis said: ''I also cry for myself…
When I withdraw into my chambers, into the hollows of the balmy dessert, I have no contact with any other being except those who are the object of my fornication. They are the only ones I need. They alone pass my doorstep. They alone know it. I never hesitate when they knock. They don't love me, nor do I love them. We merge in silence like shadows. So that's all I do, and it doesn't bring me any pleasure...
…But strangely, I love mankind!…''

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Jesus said to him : ''You’re full of Heaven, and that’s why you’re the Tempter. But could they believe in you?'' Iblis said: ''Why wouldn't they believe in me?''Jesus said to him: ''Don’t you know it's because of the punishment of the demons they don’t want to believe in them? I assumed you would be talking with pride.'' Iblis said: I have no pride.'' But Jesus was thinking to himself: ''We mustn't give him what’s convenient to him, because that will grant him the pride.'' Jesus, having withdrawn, began to cry.

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He returned to Iblis and said to him: ''I cried because, after all, I believed in you. Oh Lucifer, thou who was created as a celebration and so beautiful in the sky, send a prayer to my Father, to take you back to those meadows of grace where you once gleamed. But Iblis said: ''That is not possible.'' Jesus said: ''Why? You said when you've done wrong it didn't bring you any pleasure. And then after that you said you've also done good.'' Iblis said: ''When I do good, I don’t get any more pleasure from it.''
So Jesus left him.~



Love, Invitation to Inspiration